Since Father’s Day is just around the corner, I thought it fitting to write a blog all about Dad. Dad, as in the father to our children, my partner in this crazy life, the yin to my yang.
My husband has his dull moments, we have up and downs and “discussions” like any other couple, but I thought I’d highlight the positives and outline how important he is to our family.
Many people in our lives often say to me: “You’re so lucky!”, “You’re husband’s such a great guy” “I LOVE your husband” “Oh, you’re married to Cou, I just adore him” and often my response is (with a joking tone, of course) “Well you don’t live with him”, “Come spend a week in our house”, “You know, he snores?”
He has snagged the title of “Mr. Awesome from a few of our friends” and I do believe a few of my family members have mentioned he should have a trophy for putting up with me (True story)!
In all honesty, he truly is one amazing man. My husband is a person who puts his family first, always. He works hard, volunteers with our children’s activities and has given me the opportunity to stay home from work to focus on our family.
As we raise our children together, we aren’t always on the same page at the same time. We react differently to situations, have different perspectives and we go through our own emotional processes at varying times. At the end of the day, we’re are able to come together debrief the situation and move forward. Most importantly, move forward united.
There are many things I love watching my husband do, other than the housework.
I watch him research, trying to find the best ways to support our children. He’s continually trying to find new supports, strategies and information to best support our kids with what they are going through.
I watch him be emotionally available to our kids and accepting of who they are. He’s a great advocate for what they need and has often surprised me out in the world with how he handles others who don’t quite understand.
I watch him teach our children everyday life stuff – how to barbecue, play games, solve problems and to do their chores. He is consistent, at times maybe too consistent, but the children have a very easy time predicting the outcome with dad!
In turn, I have watched our children grow and further develop from having these experiences with their dad. They love him and love to share with him. I see so many qualities in our children that have been nurtured and are developed because of who he is and what he does.
For me, he is my biggest support. I crab to him, laugh with him, get frustrated with him and love him. When I think of our 3 little people, I am so thankful to have my husband to be on this journey with. We have been through some hard times and each of us have wondered if we’ll get through, but always do.
I truly believe that the people in our lives, are not there by accident, we are all connected and meant to be together. There is an ancient Chinese proverb that says, “An invisible thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, and circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle. But it will never break.”