I have read a few posts now on social media sites where parents, of children with disabilities, feel less than or unexceptional. They have put it out there that they have limitations or not all of the answers and at times overwhelmed. A few people have even said that they realize that they are not a superhero.
I can relate to this. I have been there. The reality is we are human, but I have to disagree with not being a “Superhero”. When I look at the superheroes that my children watch or read about, here is what I have found:
- The gig is not their only identity. They wear the suit when they have to, otherwise it’s life as usual.
- A superhero typically has a hideaway or some kind of escape where they can shut it all out.
- Most superheroes have a support system and someone to talk their ideas and problems over with.
- They are visible in their community.
- They only share intimidate details of their life to those who are trusted and close to them.
- They each have LIMITATIONS, their own struggles and are not perfect (this is a biggie for me)
Then I went and dug a little deeper and wanted to know, what are the qualities of a Superhero? I consistently came up with five characteristics.
For the children in our lives, we ARE their superhero and champions. When I think of these things, why would we not be?
- I, for one, have many “hats”. Being a mom and an advocate for my children is not my only identity. It is a big part of who I am, but it’s not all of me.
- It’s so important to have an escape, time to yourself and a moment to breathe.
- Having a support system, whether it be family members, friends of a community of support is so important. Sharing your challenges with like minded individuals and having someone to listen can be so refreshing.
- Having a child with challenges means you are out there. There are meetings to attend, people that need educating and lots of advocating for your child.
- Being a parent doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. Life is a long journey of learning.
I do have moments and challenges, there are times I am not sure what to do next. I have teary times and feel overwhelmed, but that’s what they are : Moments.
“Don’t forget that you are human. It’s OK to have a meltdown. Just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.” – Unknown
It may not feel as though you are anything special or superhuman, but to that little or big person in your life, you are their hero and their champion.